Identify Your Spiritual Non-Negotiables: Name One or Two Things That You Must Do Each Day in Order to Feel Fulfilled, that are Crucial to Your Short and Long-Term Happiness and Sanity.

  • Brainstorm some solutions and ways that you can achieve them.
  • Schedule them into your calendar.

 

The importance of identifying your spiritual non-negotiables

It’s exhausting just reflecting upon one day’s task list.  Our exhaustion explodes when life adds tasks without our consent:  bringing our car to the body shop after somebody hits our car, calling the bank about finance charges that inexplicably appear on our balance.  And on and on it goes.

Yet, when you die, is it really going to matter how many tasks you were able to check off in your life? Is it really going to matter how impeccably clean your house was? How high you climbed on the corporate ladder?

Many people who have experienced and returned from near-death experiences claim that the most important matter in life is how much they have loved — how they have lived their lives. To achieve at the cost of living is both silly and tragic.

What are your spiritual non-negotiables? What are the healthy things that are crucial to your short and long-term happiness and sanity? The only way to ensure that they occur is to slap them into your calendar and schedule everything else around them.

For over a dozen years, even before Bear was born, Sioux and I have gone out on a weekly date. Spending time with the one person in the world who best knows me, loves me, appreciates me, helps me, and makes me laugh, is medicine for my soul. In the rare week that various storms collide and we don’t have our date, my heart aches for that time.

How do I ensure our weekly dates? I schedule them every month. I call up the babysitters well ahead of time and put it in the books. Easy. Done.

For me, meditation is a non-negotiable. If I don’t make meditation both a priority and a habit, it will become buried under tasks.  

An excerpt from my wife, Sioux’s, favorite poem:

Prayer

Every day I want to speak with you.  And every day something more important

calls for my attention – the drugstore, the beauty products, the luggage

I need to buy for the trip.

Even now I can hardly sit here

among the falling piles of paper and clothing, the garbage trucks outside

already screeching and banging….

Help me.  Even as I write these words I am planning

to rise from the chair as soon as I finish this sentence.

–           Marie Howe, from The Kingdom of Ordinary Time

 

Identify Your Spiritual Non-Negotiables: Name One or Two Things That You Must Do Each Day in Order to Feel Fulfilled, that are Crucial to Your Short and Long-Term Happiness and Sanity.

  • Brainstorm some solutions and ways that you can achieve them.
  • Schedule them into your calendar.

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Dan Messinger is the author of Holy Crap, a multimedia collection of spiritual tools that help you create meaning from everyday hassles.
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One Response to Identify Your Spiritual Non-Negotiables: Name One or Two Things That You Must Do Each Day in Order to Feel Fulfilled, that are Crucial to Your Short and Long-Term Happiness and Sanity.

  1. On the Path says:

    For me, the most important thing is for me to reconnect with God, however briefly, through prayer, meditation or just sitting in silence. Sometimes, this brings up grief, because I then remember how much I squandered my day being mindlessly busy, rather than really taking in the miracle. Still, I do believe that I sleep better, and wake with greater intention if I reconnect in the nighttime. My guess is that my grief for any squandering helps to strengthen my motivation and intention. Self-compassion, for the difficulty of being human, helps, too, at night.

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