Describe a Time When You Remembered and Applied a Spiritual Principle as You Were Parenting

  • How did it affect the outcome?
  • How did it affect your relationship with your child?

 

When my son Bear was around 7, my wife Sioux was away on a meditation retreat. Bear and I seized the opportunity to spend some quality time together. That Sunday night, after a full weekend of activities and bonding, it was close to bedtime. Bear still had to brush his teeth and prepare for bed. Instead he was busily typing on the computer, ignoring my repeated reminders.

While my stress was rising, he proudly invited me to read an email that he wrote. I was frustrated. I was starting to feel the panic of time. Weariness was seething into my bones. I was not up for a power struggle.

I ignored his request and again reminded him to turn off the computer. With a wide smile on his face, he flat-out refused and demanded that I read his email.

My emotions got the best of me. I forgot who he was. I forgot the Big Picture. With a noticeable bite, I again ignored his desire and insisted that he get ready for bed.

The smile left his face. I walked away.

I breathed. I meditated. I felt bad. I didn’t like the way I handled it.

I went back to him and apologized for my manner. I shared my frustrations about his lack of follow-through and he apologized. While I was meditating and cooling off, he had actually finished preparing for bed.

Now can I show you the email that I wrote?”

The email was to me. It was sitting innocently in my Inbox. When I read it, I almost cried:

“hi daddy-o i realy liked are time together.

i love you, and i am sad that you cant come to school tomorow and see me play my recorder at morning saromony.

i am gowing to remeber all the fun times we had together for the rest of my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

 

In our relationships with our children, we usually see ourselves as the only ones who are giving and serving. However, maybe it’s the complete opposite. The fact that our kids know our triggers and buttons so perfectly — from the very day they are born — indicates the possibility that everything is designed and set up so that kids are actually here to help parents grow spiritually. As parents, it could just be our unconsciousness or arrogance that doesn’t allow us to see it that way.

However, if we embrace parenting as a spiritual path, we can grow exponentially.

 

Describe a Time When You Remembered and Applied a Spiritual Principle as You Were Parenting

  • How did it affect the outcome?
  • How did it affect your relationship with your child?

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Dan Messinger is the author of Holy Crap, a multimedia collection of spiritual tools that help you create meaning from everyday hassles.
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